If you are one of these people who cannot do without their plug, you have a lot more company than you think.
These days, both men and women of all sexual orientations love the feeling that one of these plugs bring them, so whether you’re interested in wearing your butt plug as you tidy up the house or use it only for foreplay before some good anal sex, you’re likely doing it because it feels good, which makes it a very valuable sex toy.
If you’re a beginner and have never before purchased a butt plug, it is natural for you to wonder what all the fuss is about. If you’re interested in a butt plug, but you’re afraid it might be painful or uncomfortable, there’s no need to worry.
When used properly, combined with proper anal training, a butt plug can feel extraordinary every time you use it. In fact, many people think it feels so good that they prefer this type of sexual stimulation over all of the others, and there’s a good reason why this is so. Understanding how to use a butt plug safely is also a plus, so you can forget about worrying, and just focus on the fun part.
THE MANY PARTS OF BUTT PLUG USE
If you are new to butt plugs, the best action you can take is to do everything slowly, because the one thing that you absolutely cannot do with one of these toys is rush through it.
If you do, it’s going to be painful, which means you’re likely never to try this type of activity again and, therefore, you will miss out on a lot of fun. In fact, the two most important tips when learning to use a butt plug are:
- Build up very slowly to the point of insertion.
- Always use a lot of lube, even after you get used to this type of play.
You can start by deciding which type of butt plug to start with, and for beginners, it is always best to start with something small. Butt plugs are tapered so that you can insert the small tip first, then build up to the other end, which is a bit thicker.
Metal and stainless-steel butt plugs are usually not recommended for beginners because they are much too inflexible, so use a softer material such as with silicone butt plugs instead.
Using a butt plug involves various steps, and once again, each of these steps should be taken very slowly. You’ll never regret going too slowly, because going too fast is going to be uncomfortable for you. It is also recommended you try toys smaller than a butt plug, too, like a beginner dildo or a small soft dildo.
In addition, when you apply your lube, make sure you apply it both to yourself and to the toy for best results. Remember, there is no such thing as too much lube when you’re participating in any type of anal play, so apply it generously every time.
You should also keep in mind that some of these steps depend on why you are using the butt plug in the first place.
Whether you want to use it for foreplay, to prepare the anal muscles for sex, or because you’re interested in wearing it out in public, you’ll need to keep this in mind throughout each of the steps.
The process isn’t etched in stone, and you can do whatever you need to do to adjust it and make it your own.
THE BUILD-UP: FEELINGS BEFORE INSERTION
Any type of playtime with a butt plug requires both physical and psychological preparation, so if you’re new to this game and you’re already feeling a bit titillated about the process, that will only be beneficial for you later on.
Whether you’re playing with your butt plug alone or with a partner, it is crucial that you start out by creating the right mood, which is the same mood you want for any type of sexual activity.
This means dimming the lights, finding a comfortable position, and maybe even having a glass of wine.
Why is this so important? Because just like other types of sexual activity, you have to be relaxed if you’re going to get the most out of butt plug use.
If you’re nervous in the beginning, that’s all right, but you can relax a lot sooner if you simply set a romantic mood before you go any further.
You can also try teasing your legs, buttocks, and thighs with the butt plug first, because this will have your body looking forward to what happens next.
If you’re with a partner, you can get that person to give you an erotic massage, because each time you do something to set the mood, it brings you one step closer to your ultimate goal, which is to have a great time with that butt plug.
Watching porn also helps, but there is one thing you should always keep in mind. Regardless of how excited you get, always remember that the anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina does, so excitement is never a substitution for using the right amount of lube.
Once you get to the point where you feel like you can handle inserting the butt plug, you still need to take it slowly and use a lot of lube.
Consider this activity to be composed of four different stages, but they are important stages that certain rules apply to for you to enjoy your butt plug.
STAGE ONE: THE TIP
Butt plugs are always tapered with the smallest part at the very tip, which is inserted first into the rectum. It’s important that you never try to shove the plug too far in there at first, because this could be painful.
In fact, if you’re a newbie, it’s best just to insert the very tip in the beginning, then keep it there for a while, because you’ll need to get completely comfortable with each stage before you move onto the next one.
Naturally, you will have applied a lot of lube before getting started, but if you feel like your anus is getting irritated or dry, you should go ahead and reapply the lube so that you stay nice and wet the entire time.
If you have to reapply the lube more than once, this is normal so it’s nothing to be concerned about. Making sure you’re all lubed up is the best way to keep yourself comfortable the entire time you’re playing with your butt plug.
After you insert the tip, move it in and out for a bit, or you can move it around the anus so that you can get used to what’s in there.
The rectum has several different parts, and eventually you’ll be able to explore all of them with your butt plug and enjoy the ecstasy that it brings. The first few times you use the plug, you may only be able to insert the very tip of it and nothing else, but not to worry.
Over time, both you and your anal muscles will get used to the activity, and you’ll be able to insert the plug even further.
Keep in mind that the tip of the butt plug also works to stretch out those anal muscles, because they are very tight muscles at first.
Once the anal muscles get stretched to a certain point, they won’t stretch any further, which means you don’t have to worry about them ever being too loose.
However, when you first start using your butt plug, this won’t be a concern for you, so taking your time goes a long way in stretching out those muscles without too much pain on your part.
STAGE TWO: THE STRETCH
The first part of the anus contains sensitive nerve endings, so if just the tip of the butt plug is inserted, it may feel a little like a tickle and not much else.
It can also feel like you’re getting ready to have a bowel movement, but if you went to the bathroom before you got started, this should never happen.
Once you get the tip of the butt plug inside, work it in further very slowly, and always stop the activity if it ever becomes painful or uncomfortable for you. This becomes more important when you are using large butt plugs.
To relax the muscles, you’ll need to insert the plug very slowly, only going a little further when you feel you are ready.
Remember that each of the muscles, as well as each section of those muscles, has to be stretched out before you go any further, which takes some time.
In fact, at some point you’ll reach the sphincter muscle, and this muscle is especially tight, which means it may take you some time to get past it painlessly.
The key, of course, is to use a lot of lube and a little patience, and another important tip is to always remember to breathe. Some people get nervous and tense up, and then they forget to breathe naturally.
When you do this, all of your muscles tighten up, including your anal muscles, and this makes it much more difficult to insert your butt plug.
As long as you’re using your butt plug, you have to remember to keep breathing normally, because this is the best way to keep things comfortable.
Another tip is that if you ever feel pain, discomfort, or tearing, you should stop immediately. This is especially true if you’ve already applied and reapplied a lot of lube.
Pain or bleeding is a sign that something is wrong, so if this happens to you while you’re playing with your butt plug, stop right away and investigate the problem so that you can come up with a viable solution.
STAGE THREE: FULL INSERTION
Only you will know when you’re ready to insert your butt plug all the way in, because it takes a different amount of time for each individual. On the day that you end up inserting the butt plug all the way, you’ll likely feel like celebrating, and with good reason.
Playing with a butt plug when your anus is fully ready for it is an amazing feeling, and even if it takes you a long time to get to this point, it will definitely be worth it in the end.
Once your butt plug is inserted all the way in, take your time with it.
Push it in and out, explore the inner parts of the anus and rectum, and if you’re a man, don’t forget to massage and rub that prostate gland some so that you can enjoy the benefits of this action.
In fact, there are even butt plugs that have a slightly curved tip and are made just for that purpose, so go ahead and give your prostate the attention that it craves and deserves.
If you ask anyone who loves butt plugs what they feel like when they are fully inserted, they will usually use the word “full” at some point.
Butt plugs produce a sense of fullness like few other sex toys do, and don’t worry if that fullness feels like you’re going to have a bowel movement.
Again, this is not likely to happen, so just enjoy the exotic feeling of fullness and go with it.
Take your time as you play with your butt plug, and get creative once it’s inside of you. After all, this is the fun part of the process, so spend some time on it and get to know what you like and don’t like in the bedroom.
Only you will know what feels pleasurable, and discovering what your body craves is an important part of playing with butt plugs.
STAGE FOUR: REMOVAL
If you’ve learned anything so far, it is the fact that you should take your butt plug activity slowly, and this is especially important when it comes to removing it.
Even if you’re used to using a butt plug, pulling the toy out quickly can damage sensitive muscle tissue, which can cause pain and sensitivity.
Instead, never try to remove a butt plug until you are completely relaxed and ready, and even then, you should remove it slowly.
At this point, you may still need to reapply your lube. Don’t feel like you’re wasting your lube just because you’re using it to help remove your butt plug, because just like inserting the plug, removing it needs to include anal muscles that are ready for the activity.
Pull it out very slowly, and if you feel dry or the plug gets stuck at any point, don’t forget to add more lubrication.
Think of the removal of your butt plug in two stages. First, you have to get the widest section removed, which can be a challenge sometimes because your sphincter muscles will be clenched tightly at this point.
This is why it is a good idea to work hard to release the sphincter muscles as much as possible, as well as continue to breathe properly. Soon, the wide end of the butt plug will be completely out of the anus.
At this point, the second part of the removal starts, but it is also the easiest part.
Once the sphincter muscles are relaxed and the widest section of the butt plug is removed, the rest of the plug should slide out easily, but that doesn’t mean you can perform this step quickly.
Continue to go slowly until the entire butt plug is removed, and if you’re concerned about making a mess, you can lay a towel down before you get started.
THE COME DOWN: FEELINGS AFTER REMOVAL
By the time your butt plug is removed, you’ll have a complete sense of fulfillment and contentment. You may even be a little bit tired, but you will definitely not be unsatisfied or tense.
You may need some time to come down from the experience, and the first thing you should do is lie there and relax, maybe even doing some deep-breathing exercises for a few minutes.
Just lie or sit there and revel in the moment for a while before you do anything else.
You should also know that playing with a butt plug, just like sexual activity, can be a bit messy. This means that placing towels on the bed before you get started can make cleaning up afterwards a lot easier and faster.
Going into the bathroom and relieving yourself is also recommended, if for no other reason than to make sure you’re clean “down there.” You can even take a shower or a bath if you like.
Once you’re ready, post-butt plug play should always include cleaning the toy thoroughly so that it’ll be ready for play the next time around. Butt plugs can be cleaned with a mild soap and warm water, then you can let it air dry for the best results.
This is not a very time-consuming activity, but it is a very important one. Dirty sex toys are not healthy for you, nor are they safe, which means regularly cleaning them is a must.
Butt plug play is a lot of fun for both men and women, and getting used to butt plugs slowly is the safest and simplest way to participate in this type of activity. Over time, you might feel more adventurous and explore other kinks to pair with your butt plug use. Dip your toes in bondage play and get bed handcuffs if you have a partner—let your partner play with your butthole as you are restrained in bed.
Ultimately, by following a few simple rules, using a lot of lube, and going very slowly, you can get used to butt plugs sooner than you think, enabling you to enjoy a lifetime of fun anal activity.
