Men LOVE blowjobs. It’s pretty common knowledge.
But if you’ve ever given one, you probably noticed the guy trying to force his cock deeper and deeper into your mouth. No matter how good you are at sucking him off, he’s always going to want you to deepthroat it.
Deepthroating sounds simple, just take his cock deep into your throat. But actually doing it is a different matter. You need to practice controlling your gag reflex, and a dildo is the perfect tool for this. Before long you’ll be giving him blowjobs he’ll never forget!
You Want to Impress Your Man? We’ve Got You Covered!
So you want to learn the secret of deep throat blowjobs, and give your man an oral experience he’ll always remember? Well, you’re in the right place.
As you read through this page, you’ll learn everything there is to know about deepthroating. You’ll learn how to deep throat, how to practice, and before you know it you’ll be a deepthroating pro.
Let’s get started…
Why Do Men Like Deep Throating So Much?
Before we talk training, let’s start with why. What’s so great about deepthroating that almost all men love it?
Physically, it’s quite simple. It’s tight!
Your throat is already quite a small and tight hole, but as you go deeper there are several sphincters. These are there to stop things getting in or out of your throat, and will close or open as you swallow food or drinks. When a penis reaches them, it can feel them wrap tightly around the shaft which provides extra stimulation for the man.
Psychologically though, there’s a lot more to it. For some, cumming in your throat is just hot. The idea of it gets people of both genders going, and can lead to some hot oral action for the woman afterwards too.
Other people like the dominance aspect. Thrusting so deep into a woman’s throat that she can’t even breathe is a great way to assert dominance. Sometimes the man doesn’t even think of the woman as a person anymore, but merely a toy for him to cum into. This kind of play strays into the realm of BDSM, but isn’t really that extreme.
Some men love it because it’s something special that their lady does to show how much she cares for him. Like a little treat for when he’s been a good boy!
Whatever the reason, it’s very rare that you’ll find a man who doesn’t want to be deepthroated, and if you do it’s often because they haven’t had a good deepthroat yet.
Why Use a Dildo for Deep Throat Training?
You might think the only way to get good at deepthroating is practicing with a real penis, but luckily we can use dildos too!
One of the biggest benefits of this is that you can find dildos in all sorts of different shapes and sizes. That means you can start with a thin dildo that’s smaller and easier to suck —for example, a 4 inch dildo or just the smallest dildo—then gradually work your way up to a huge dildo. You can even push your limits with a textured dildo and increase your tolerance to gagging. Plus, you can get your own pleasure from them while you work! Win-win!
And if you really want a long dildo, try a double dildo. They can go as long as 20 inches, and they're perfect as the endgame training. (Not to be confused with double-penetration dildos, though, because they have a different shape from double-ended dildos.)
Some dildo types have additional features that provide a new layer of stimulation in solo or partnered play. An ejaculating dildo, as you can gather from its name, is a dildo that cums —this feature adds immersion and realism, and it might just awaken a cum fetish within you.
You can also practice in private, so you don’t feel embarrassed asking your man to offer his penis to you for regular sessions. Instead you can learn how to do it, then surprise him with some shockingly good oral.
You Can Desensitize Your Gag Reflex
The biggest hurdle to deepthroating is the gag reflex. You probably already know what this is, but you might be one of the lucky people who just doesn’t have one.
Basically, the gag reflex is something that happens to help force things out of your throat. It might be a food that you don’t like, a drink that went down the wrong way, or a penis that was just too big.
Luckily, if you were born with a gag reflex you're not stuck with it forever. You can train your body to act in certain ways, and your throat is no different. With practice you can suppress the reflex and go about your oral exploration unhindered.
While you practice, pay attention to what causes you to gag. It might be touching a specific part of your mouth or throat. It could be the speed that something goes in. Or it could be something as simple as having your eyes open.
During your deep throat training, if you can identify the things that cause you to gag, it becomes much easier to ignore. A textured dildo can really help because they can trigger your gag reflex more than the regular ones. Then over time it will become less sensitive or even be eliminated entirely.
Choosing a Dildo to Train With
So you can just grab a dildo and start practicing, right?
Well, you can, but there’s a few things you should look for when choosing a dildo for deepthroat practise:
- Don’t go too small: It’s a sad reality, but some penises are just too small to deepthroat and it's tempting to just settle with an extra small dildo. You should try to choose a dildo that will actually let you practice suppressing your gag reflex, not just one that you suck on like a lollipop.
- Don’t go too big: Similarly, going for a giant fantasy dildo isn’t a recipe for success. While fascinating, huge dildos —like dragon dildos—are going to be tough to even fit in your mouth, let alone your throat, and aren’t going to give you a realistic deepthroating experience.
- Choose a flexible material: While an erect penis is hard, it’s not rock solid. Deepthroating a toy made of metal or glass is definitely possible, but while you’re learning it’s usually better to stick to a soft dildo or a 100% silicone dildo so you can have a more realistic (and easier) time.
- Choose one with a base: A flared base anal dildo or one with testicles will help you avoid accidentally swallowing the dildo.
To put it simply, you’re looking for something that’s around the average penis size, that you can hold onto easily. Another option is a suction cup dildo, as you can attach it to a table then practice without needing to hold onto it.
Fine, We’ll Get to the Good Stuff: It’s Training Time
Alright, you’re finally ready. You know about your gag reflex, you’ve got a dildo in your hand. Now what?
Well, it’s time to practice!
No really, that’s all there is to it. Take the dildo into your mouth and see how deep you can make it go. Each time you gag, try and identify what’s causing it, and change your technique to try and improve it.
You’ll probably gag a lot, but that’s completely okay! As long as you take your time, and practice regularly, your throat will become more and more used to being penetrated. Before long your gag reflex will be a thing of the past, and you’ll be deepthroating like a pro.
Some Extra Deepthroating Tips
If you need a little extra help taming that gag reflex, then try out some of these tips:
- Use lube! It might seem a little weird to use lube in your throat, but for some people this is the magic trick that makes deepthroating much easier. Choose a flavored lube if you want to avoid the sterile taste of standard lube.
- Don’t focus on your throat: Treat the dildo just like you would a real penis. Lick it, stroke it, suck it. Make your focus giving a great blowjob, rather than just sticking something down your throat. Distracting yourself is a great way to learn how to deep throat without gagging.
- Enjoy Yourself! Don’t treat it like homework. It’s meant to be sexy! Play with yourself while you practice. Turn yourself on. Make deepthroating something you enjoy to do!
- Avoid numbing cream or numbing lube: These things might make it easier to deepthroat, but losing sensitivity in your throat could lead to you swallowing or choking by accident.
- Be in control: If you do decide to deepthroat your man, make sure they stay still. Sure getting throatfucked can be great, while you’re still practicing his movements can make it harder not to gag, so make sure you’re the one doing all the movements.
- Don’t use condoms: These can slip off while you suck the penis or dildo, and cause choking or just sit in your stomach decomposing, yuck!
- Try different dildo types: for a more immersive experience, try practicing with an ejaculating dildo. Squirting dildo with fake cum (lube or water) to emulate a cumshot inside your mouth. Going this extra mile will surely make your partner happy.
Ready to start improving your deepthroating techniques? Head over to our dildo collection now and choose a toy to become intimately acquainted with!
