Despite decades of progress on taking away the stigma surrounding anal play, there are still plenty of people who’ve never tried it, and never will.
Some think it hurts. Some think it’s gross. And some, just don’t find it sexy.
If you’re brave enough to explore the forbidden fruit though, you can find an entirely new world of pleasure, and the humble anal dildo is the perfect tool to set you upon this journey.
Once you’ve chosen the ideal dildo for anal penetration, you’ll need to take some time to prepare yourself both mentally and physically. With the right mindset though, you can painlessly and easily insert your dildo and start to enjoy many new kinds of pleasure once it’s inside. Just make sure your body doesn’t push it back out!
Choosing the Right Anal Dildo for You
Deciding which anal dildo to use is an important choice, which can make a big difference to the feelings you experience while using it. There are so many different types, shapes and sizes, and a massive range of features that can change your sexual experience.
Before you start looking at any of these factors though, there’s one thing you have to make sure of. Any anal dildo you use should have a flared base. This ensures that the dildo can’t get sucked completely into your butt and get stuck or lost.
You should also carefully consider which material your dildo is made from. Ideally, you want an anal dildo made from silicone, glass or stainless steel. These materials are non-porous, which helps reduce odor, and don’t contain phthalates or other harmful chemicals. And each material have a different feel, too. If you're looking for a skin-like texture and softness, consider a silicone dildo as your first buy.
Aside from these two requirements, it’s completely up to you what kind of dildo you want to try.
For complete beginners to anal play, a small and thin dildo is ideal. short dildos and narrow dildos put less pressure on the anus and they are easier to control. For someone who has used an anal dildo a few times and want to spice things up a bit, then a vibrating anal dildo or one with extra texture can make the difference.
For men who want to stimulate the P-spot, a prostate massager or curved anal dildo can help reach the right area. For experienced anal enjoyers who want a new challenge, then an extra large fantasy dildo can provide the stretch they’re looking for. Realistic giant dildos and big dildos are also on the table, too, if you're looking for a more realistic shape and feel.
Think about your own body, your own experience level, and the things you enjoy during non-anal stimulation, and try to choose a dildo that will give you at least some of those same sensations while you start exploring anal.
Preparing for Anal Play Is Incredibly Important
Taking some simple steps to prepare yourself for anal play can make a massive difference in the experience you have, especially if you’re a beginner. Rushing into your first time can leave you wondering what all the fuss was about, and unlikely to try again any time soon.
The biggest step you can take to make anal play more enjoyable is simply to use lubrication. It might sound obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people just think “spit will do”. It doesn’t…
Next up is making sure that you’re comfortable, and horny. Find a position that makes it easy to move the dildo around, and that you can stay in for at least a few minutes. Do whatever you need to get yourself turned on, and get ready for penetration.
How to Use an Anal Toy for Beginners
Even if you’re already experienced with anal toys, it’s always good to have a refresher. So let’s go over the process of inserting and enjoying your anal dildo.
- Clean your dildo: Even if you’re cleaning it after each use (which you should be), there may be dirt and germs that build up between uses, so it’s always worth giving it another clean before you start.
- Check your dildo for damage: Whenever you use a sex toy you should take a couple of minutes to check it over and make sure there’s no damage. If there is, then use a different toy.
- Use the bathroom! One of the most common fears for people who aren’t as comfortable with anal play is pooping while you do it. Completely take away that fear by using the bathroom first, and if you want to be extra sure use an anal douche or enema.
- Get in the mood: Whatever gets you turned on and horny, spend some time doing it before you even touch your butt!
- Apply plenty of lube: We mentioned it earlier, but lube is critically important for anal play. Make sure it’s on your dildo, and your butt, and ideally in your hole too. It’ll dry out during your session so don’t be afraid to stop and reapply whenever you need to.
- Start with a finger: Don’t jump straight in with the dildo. With the tip of your (lubed) finger, start making circular motions around your butt hole. This will start to relax the muscles. Then when you feel ready push the tip of your finger inside, up to the first knuckle. Move it in and out a bit, until you’re comfortable with the sensations, then go a little deeper. Once you’ve taken one finger, try a second. Keep making circular motions the entire time to continue relaxing your anal muscles.
- SLOWLY push in the dildo: Just like with your finger, take inserting the dildo in stages. Push the tip inside, then take a short break. Move it back and forth, then go deeper. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, or if it starts to hurt, then you’re going too fast. It should feel good or neutral the whole time, so take a break if you need to then try again.
It’s In, What Do I Do Now?
You did it! Now what?
Well, one of the first things you might notice is that your butt will probably be trying to push the dildo back out. This is completely normal, and something you’ll need to content with during most anal play. If it does fall out, simply push it back inside, but after a while your muscles should relax and it should be easier to keep the dildo inside.
When you’re feeling ready, start moving the dildo around! Try gentle back and forth motions, rotations or small circles. If your dildo vibrates, turn it on! Start exploring everything anal and see what your butt has to offer.
If you’re struggling to enjoy it though, there’s a couple of things you can try. First off, simply hold the dildo inside your body. For many people the feeling of fullness that comes from anal toys is the biggest draw of the experience, and can be pleasurable with no movement at all.
Another way to get more comfortable with anal is to start playing with other parts of your body. Masturbate, tease or stroke, all while you keep the dildo inside your body. Even if the anal play isn’t really pushing your buttons, it will usually make any other masturbation much more intense.
Some Anal Sex Tips
- Don’t double dip! If you’ve used a toy in your butt then you shouldn’t use it in your vagina without washing it first.
- Avoid numbing creams. Sometimes you’ll see these recommended to make anal easier, but feeling pain is a sign from your body that something is wrong and ignoring it can make things even worse for yourself.
- Don’t obsess over anal orgasms. They’re quite rare, and for most people anal is more like something that “feels nice” alongside other play.
- Use the bathroom when you’re done! Your butt is gonna be full of lube, loosened up, and ready to clear itself out. If you can have a shower too then that’s even better!
- Use other types of anal dildos. For example, an ejaculating dildo or a squirting dildo can elevate your anal play by imitating a real climax, which adds a whole new stimulation. The more you experiment, the more you discover new sensations in your body.
- Add a touch of kink! Enhance your partnered play with bondage toys in the mix. leather restraints and leather restraint cuffs add mental thrill by limiting your movements, making you more vulnerable and sensitive to stimulation.
Anal play is a great way to add a new dimension to your sex life. It might not be for everyone, but if you’re ready to start exploring, check out our collection and choose your first anal dildo now.
